Many people turn their financial lives around after hitting rock bottom. A crushing debt load or a sudden financial crisis spurs them to make drastic changes.
That’s not my story. I didn’t hit a low. Instead, it was the opposite that changed my financial life.
Years ago, we embarked on our first big travel adventure. We had just recently become expatriates in China (the first time around, as we’re currently back again) and the move essentially resulted in a sudden windfall for us due to the influx of bonuses and allowances that the opportunity presented.
We spent nearly a five-figure sum on this 9-day trip to Cambodia and Vietnam and were excited to see the world with our two small kids (ages 3 and 1).
But my biggest discovery wasn’t the splendor of Angkor Wat in Siam Reap or the horrors of the Chu Chi tunnels of Vietnam.
It was the realization of my unlimited potential to use my time and resources to build any life I wanted for myself. An opportunity that is afforded to only a select few in the vast world in which we live.
While my kids played side by side in the dirt with local children of a very different level of means, I realized that they really needed so little to be happy. And when I looked in the faces of the local people living profoundly simple lives, I realized that they were happier than I was.
Here I was, spending more on this trip than many of these people made in an entire year of difficult work. And I knew then that money doesn’t buy happiness.
It changed me.
It changed my views on money.
It changed my views on life.
My Discovery of the FIRE Movement
The next few years brought a lot more travel, numerous hours of reading books like Your Money or Your Life, The Millionaire Next Door and The Automatic Millionaire as well as the discovery of hundreds of amazing personal finance blogs. I discovered for the first time the concept of financial independence, namely the ability to live entirely off your passive income while no longer needing to work to support your lifestyle.
As someone that grew up poor, this was an absolute financial epiphany (that’s a thing, right?!).
As a natural progression, I also found the FIRE (Financial Independence Retire Early) movement. It was like a whole different world opened up to me. One that supported my newfound view that I could do and become anything I wanted, it was just a matter of being intentional about my money. And more than that, being intentional about my LIFE.
I relate so much to the mindset of those pursuing FIRE, yet I feel like I’m not really part of the FIRE movement.
I’m not living off $30k a year on only the bare necessities like Mr. Money Mustache. I didn’t get rid of my car in favor of riding only a bike around. And I don’t save 90% of my income like the Frugal Gene through side hustles and cutting out all excess spending. We certainly aren’t going to move into an RV like Steve & Courtney with our 3 kids to travel full time around the country (they don’t have kids or they probably wouldn’t either!). And we chose the expat package to move us abroad, unlike Jim’s upcoming move to Panama.
I love to read about the amazing accomplishments of these people in the FIRE movement (and many, many others!).
We probably won’t even actually retire before our 60’s. However, we are making decisions that should allow us to have the choice to retire much, much earlier if we ever changed our minds or something happened to us.
It’s the mindset and attitudes of the FIRE movement that I’m 100% a part of. It’s these truths that have impacted me.
1. Finding Your Purpose
For those pursuing the “RE” or “Retire Early” part of the FIRE movement, there’s a recent focus on ensuring that you have something that you’re retiring to, rather than just retiring from.
I can very much relate to this from being a stay-at-home parent for several years. Leaving a career that previously defined your entire adult life forces you to redefine who you are and how you’re contributing to the world. It requires you to look deep inside yourself and see who you really are and what’s truly important to you.
And then it encourages you to go out and make a difference with your newfound perspective on life.
That’s what the members of the FIRE community are doing: spending their time helping and encouraging others to be more intentional about their lives while living this truth themselves every single day. Yes, there’s probably a few out there lounging on the beach every day, but that’s the vast minority.
Getting your finances in order allows you to focus on the things that you’re truly passionate about, without being tied to a full-time job that consumes your waking hours. You don’t have to be financially independent yet to find this truth and to pursue your passions, but being on the path certainly helps!
2. It’s Not About Money At All
On a related note, those in the FIRE community know that it’s not really about the money at all. None of it is. It’s about life.
I’ve found that focusing on my finances has allowed me to reach a point where I really don’t spend much time thinking about it at all. I no longer even know whether it’s payday and I am confident that I can cover any financial crisis that comes my way.
It didn’t take nearly as much money as I’d thought it would to get to this point. It took:
- Having enough in savings to cover over a year’s worth of expenses
- Automating my finances completely, from bill paying to savings contributions
- Knowing that my insurance policies will cover disability, death, and nearly every other financial catastrophe
- Having an investment plan in place that gives me the confidence that my current retirement contributions will support me in the future completely
And now that I feel that I am well on my way to having enough? My time and energy have been freed up to focus on more important things. That’s what FIRE is all about: living life on your own terms, without money being the primary factor.
We’re not at financial independence yet, but we certainly have a degree of financial freedom that allows us to make decisions that we wouldn’t be able to otherwise.
3. We Can Achieve Big Things (Huge Things!)
At first, I thought I was really rocking it financially when I ran all sorts of projections and found that based on our current rate of retirement contributions, we’d have millions when we retired in our 60’s. Of course, this was before discovering the FIRE community with people that have saved over a million by their 30’s.
The FIRE community is full of people doing incredible things. They’re bucking society’s norms and realizing that they don’t have to follow the typical path that defines success. There’s no need for the bigger home, the fancier car, and the latest gadget to show the world that you’ve made it.
Those early retirees in their 30’s are doing something that seems nearly impossible for most people. And they’re showing how to do it.
As the saying goes:
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”.
I’ve started setting bigger goals for myself and I’ve simply had bigger accomplishments as a result. Even those times that I didn’t completely reach my goal!
4. Don’t Throw Money at the Problem
I have to admit that there have been numerous times that I thought that I could solve some problems in my life by buying something. Companies are good at marketing things to us, even things that we had no idea we “needed” until we saw the commercial (or billboard, or Facebook ad).
Problems can’t be solved through buying more convenience items. It’s often hard work that gives you the confidence you need to solve that problem and the next. The FIRE movement shows that a little bit of frugality and a lot of motivation are what you really need to succeed.
The opposite of not throwing money at the problem doesn’t necessarily have to be excessive frugality though. While many in the FIRE movement are extremely frugal, you can find a balanced approach that allows you to spend according to your values, but not be wasteful.
As a result of the FIRE community, I’ve dug a little deeper and found that there are plenty more ways to optimize my life and my money, without hardly sacrificing anything at all. It’s all about being intentional and spending according to your true values.
5. What Does It Mean to Have Enough?
If we let it, society will tell us that it’s never enough. We will always pursue that next promotion, the bigger home, exotic travel location, and the latest gadget to show that we are successful. There’s always the next thing we feel we need to achieve when we’ve reached one milestone. We convince ourselves that we’ll be happy when we have that “one more” thing or accomplishment.
I think that most people don’t even realize what having “enough” would even look like for them personally. I’m sure that most people haven’t even asked themselves that question.
The FIRE community has numerous resources to help people calculate their own “enough” number, specifically how much would be “enough” to be walk away from work and be able to live life on their own terms.
Even if your goal isn’t early retirement, it’s invaluable to know how much “enough” is for you. I’ve even drafted for myself an “enough” budget that shows how much it would require to really have everything I really want (and it’s way less than I thought it would be!).
Setting that “enough” target allows you the confidence to pursue opportunities without fear of failure and will likely make you more financially successful than before.
There are an awful lot of big problems that money can’t solve. But on the other hand, financial independence can eliminate a lot of problems too.
While others may have dissenting views on the FIRE movement, I’ve personally found nothing but good in the community. There are generous people like Physician on Fire, fellow spreadsheet gurus like Big ERN and numerous others. Really, there’s something for everyone here. There are truly amazing people doing incredible things.
Maybe I’m really not an outsider at all. I might just count myself as part of the FIRE movement from now on. Even if we do keep our 9-5’s a little longer than the rest of them.
Totally with this post, although I do consider myself part of the FIRE movement. Same reason as you-i identify with all the values. Even if my life looks different than others, that’s OK. We’re all on a unique journey to whatever we consider freedom.
Love this Liz! We really are on different paths to the same end goal: financial freedom and independence.
I too have learned so much from the FIRE community just from looking on in from the outside. I would eventually like to strive for FIRE, but until then, I am firmly in the debt-warrior category. I hope that will all change once I get to net worth zero 🙂
Thank you for sharing this!
You can totally have a negative net worth AND be part of the FIRE community. We all start at different places and it’s the journey that matters most!
I love this, Kathyrn – I just learned all kinds of info about you! 🙂 I actually like that everyone’s path is different – there’s really no cookie-cutter journey or outcome. That’s one of the things I appreciate about the FIRE community – no one really judges what you want to do. Like you said – it’s not really all about the money. Money’s just a tool to get you to be able to transform your life into what works for you.
And, btw, you’re no outsider in my book! 🙂
Thanks for letting me join the in-crowd Jim! But really, I’m in great company!
Nailed it. I’ve only just begun my Financial Independance journey. While FIRE is new to me it’s all about setting goals and being happy.
Yes! That’s exactly what financial independence is about!
Wonderful article & I couldn’t agree more-thank you! ?
Funny, I’ve never thought of you as outside the FIRE community.
So glad you are writing again!
Hope all is well XO!
Thanks Amy! I’m definitely in good company. It was great to see you in Orlando!
Such an awesome post Kathryn. This resonates with me as over the past 6 years of taking the path of Financial Independence my outlook on life, how I behave and how I treat others has transformed greatly. I think the reflection aspect of the FI movement moves past money once we start the journey and then we begin to reflect on how we are living our lives.
My entire website shifted to “Mindful” and the lifestyle that emerged thanks to MMM and those early blogs I devoured back in 2012. Now I am FIRE’d and focus all my effort on being a better steward of the earth and do what I can to enrich the lives of those around me, lifting them up in a positive manner.
It really does all come down to mindfulness and intentionality doesn’t it? The FIRE community really is amazing.
So agree with you! It’s not about the money at all. It’s about finding your why for being financial independence in the first place. What really makes you love life? You start to appreciate life more and more once money is not in the equation anymore.
Love your blog name Tim! Once I figured out my why, everything else fell into place. I completely agree!
Absolutely agree with you. The FIRE movement may not be for everyone and is definitely not for people who crib about living frugally. I mean if you are saving up loads of money – it’s for a reason – the culmination of you journey and not for some $2000 handbag you want to buy. I think you nailed it, dear.
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